Is love = Toys? True or False-Do you think that the love for your child is demonstrated by how big and full their toy box is? My eldest daughter once said to me “my friend has so many toys because her parents love her so much”. She was saying this because her friend had 20 lalaloopsy dolls.
My daughter didn’t have any but instead we gave her $50 so that she can buy it herself. So we said this is your money, what you do with it is up to you. The reason we gave her cash was somehow to teach her the value of money. However, we didn’t think it was good use of her money. So hubby kind of discouraged her and she didn’t end up buying it. So her friend has approx. 15 dolls that’s $750. There was no way I was going to spend that much money.
Anyway she went on to say her friends’ family can afford to do that because they have one child and for her she has a little sister.
I just discussed this with her as I am writing this blog post honestly that was approx 5 years ago and she still remembers this incident. She says yeah I didn’t buy her lots of toys because she had a baby sister because babies are expensive.
I did not want her to resent having a sibling so I explained to her that even when she was an only child I never bought her a lot of toys. Don’t get me wrong I still did buy her toys but in moderation. The reason being I have noticed that kids get excited about the newness in one day and the next day that toy is shoved in the toy box or somewhere else and they never play with it again.
As my eldest daughter got older she moved to gadgets, I remember the days of Nintendo D.S which she had and there was always a new version coming up. Like every kid she wanted the latest version. I felt that as a mum I needed to teach my daughter that she doesn’t have to have the latest or have what other people have.
I needed to teach her to have what she needed not what she wanted
I want my kids to run their own race and when they are older to buy the things they need and can afford. After all life is not a competition.
I believe that love has nothing to do with material things, love is deeper than that. I love my kids unconditional and I buy them gifts because they are my kids not because of what they have done or didn’t do.
Love & blessings