Do you live your life to gain approval from other people? I was having a dialogue with someone who mentioned that due to being concerned about what people were going to say they had to do things in a certain way. I was like who cares what people think or will say? Do You? The response was hesitant so I knew he cared.
I do not live my life to fit in society’s categories and do things do validate or stay in that category which I am perceived to be in.
I have got to write my life story in line with my purpose and not society’s expectations
I do not mean to be rebellious but I just choose to live my life freely. I do not want to act one way to stay in the groups that are set by society. I am sure that my justifications below make sense;
It takes away the real you
I believe that everybody has a role to play in this life, so if I copy what other people are doing who is going to play my role. Life is a gift and I treasure it so why should I spend it doing the things I do not like just to fit in society’s expectations.
I remember years ago when I started my accounting career. My grandmother asked me about my course however she was very disappointed when I told her. She expected me to do one of the traditional well-known careers. I am sure she wanted something which she could boast about to her friends or her community.
As I think of it I am laughing because she couldn’t even pronounce the work Accounting lol. But you know what I had to be me and I have no apologies for choosing to be me instead of what society wants.
Look I do not blame grandma it’s just that that’s all she knew.
I do not apologies for choosing to be me instead of being what society wants me to be
Society expectations can be a limitation
Again I remember in my early accounting career being told by an uncle that he had tried accounting it’s too hard. He proceeded to tell me that his 2 sisters had tried it and couldn’t make it. Look already he was putting limitations on me. Even though I was young I was able to tell myself that I am not him and neither am I his sisters and I went ahead to do me.
It creates toxic relationships due to comparisons
Have you ever heard people boasting about what their kids are studying at University or their kids’ achievement. Instead of one person being happy and rejoicing with the other parent over their kid’s achievement instead they become jealous.
Some people are not comfortable to invite people in their homes because they feel their homes are not as beautiful as other peoples’. Look it’s not a competition you home is beautiful as it is, it doesn’t have to look like someone else’s.
It creates a wrong definition of success
I believe the definition of success is subjective, however I define my success relative to myself, i.e. I look at my potential and compare to what I have achieved. I also think success is not just achievement but it’s a broad term. For me relationships come into play, I do not want to be a highly achieved lonely person who has no people to have quality time with or to love and be loved by.
I do not measure success by comparing myself to others as their path is different from mine
Society does not know my purpose
Yeah my purpose in life is different from everybody and because we are all so uniquely created we cannot be categorized.
I am in my own individual category with no name of its own, so are my kids, they are unique. So I choose to follow my purpose in life.
6 Reasons You Shouldn’t Live Life According to Society’s Expectation
Society creates a standard
I remember one day my daughter was so upset that her best friend didn’t want to be friends with her. The friend had joined another group at school which they called the pretty girls. I asked the question who defines who is pretty and who isn’t? You see in her community at school they had set a standard of prettiness. According to what? Who knows
My daughter couldn’t answer my question, then I told her that every girl is pretty. You are pretty too, go to school make more friends and enjoy your school days.
You can’t force people to be friends with you, find other people who enjoy your company, neither can you force someone to love you.
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